You can also play a game to make things more fun, like the What if game. This is like dreaming together but is more focused on your partner.What if you won a prize? what would you Do? In order to gain your partners trust and to show that you care and your interested in what happens, you can repeat what he/she`s saying under the form of a question. For example “you didn`t get a raise? Saying the words aloud forces you to record their meaning and to stay focused.
Another great couples conversation starter can be talking about gossips from work or about friends you both know. You can share secrets and this can bring you closer together. Problems are also a good topic because when you release your fears and your dilemmas and your partner becomes a shoulder you can cry on. You can then both try to come up with solutions. Having someone beside you , when you feel the worst can count ten times more than a simple “ I love you”.
A good advice to make your relationship work , even after many years, is to plan a date every week or even once at 2 weeks. We know that couple life can be tough and after a while routine and monotony appear, but a “date” can be fun. Call a babysitter to stay with the kids, if you have kids, or cancel your plans and clear your schedule and have a beautiful day with your loved one. It will really spice things up!