The percent of kids that are abandoned when they were little has increased considerably. Nowadays with all the contraceptive methods, there are still women that have kids and leave them alone. It`s a tragedy what happens to young kids but the problem comes from the mother. Many of the girls that leave their child at nursing homes are teenagers that can`t take care of a kid at their age. Some kids grow up in foster homes and end up really good, happy and healthy and others just don`t fit anywhere and end up total losers. The family that adopts a child, most commonly can`t have children and so, they choose to adopt. Others just want to adopt, to help a child.




When the adopted kids grow older, they start asking questions about their birth mother. This is an awkward situation for everybody, but the right thing, the foster parents need to do, is to tell the truth. There is always going to be a hole , that the adoptive parents won`t be able to fill, but, the fact that the child is ok and happy is more than he could ask for. The foster mom is practically his real mom,the one that raised him and was there in every moment of his life, but we would all wonder how does our birth mother look like, what she does, why did she give us up.

If some abandoned children have the opportunity to meet their birth mom, here are some ideas of things to talk about with your birth mother: you can talk about why she did so, what was she thinking of, if she ever wanted to take you back, were there moments when she thought of you, does she feel sorry? and so on. There are a lot of questions that can be asked while talking calmly with your birth mother. The most awful thing is that, the child that was abandoned, and in consequence became an orphan, will always have the feeling of not belonging. This tragedy leaves important marks inside you.

Those children that grow up in nursing homes, get older and have no feelings or no idea how to behave when they have a family. Because the mother figure didn’t exist and also the father figure was totally absent, now the orphan grown up can`t seem to find it`s place . In the end, the things you can talk about with your birth mother are more of reproaches. The hate will eventually go away in time, but the feeling of not being wanted will remain forever. Nobody can take the place of your birth mother, but in the end, it matters who is next to you when you most need it, not who gave you birth. The opinions might be divided, but we all feel that abandoning your child is a sin.